Enough of the fight! Remain in control of your anxiety.

I know there’s a whole bunch of really useful blog posts about staying in control of your anxiety, but I wanted to add my own into the mix in hopes that there’s something to help someone!

Anxiety is something I’ve been dealing with since I can remember, however in the last 4 years it’s something that has been pushed right to the front of my mind and can sometimes control how I live my life. Here is a list I’ve compiled of the best ways that help me remain in control, or helps me feel like I have a little bit of control at least.

Be mindful.

A pretty popular method but it really helps. Your mind is powerful. An anxious mind is even more powerful, full of “what ifs” and “maybes”. Translate the power of the mind into mindfulness – stay present in the moment, don’t let the anxious questions take over, take control and power your mind to think about what is actually happening right now. Think about your senses, what can you feel? Hear? Smell? See? Taste? Can you feel the breeze on your skin? Can you hear the birds chirping? This is one of the best ways to strengthen your brain and help you remain in control when you’re feeling anxious, I would seriously recommend practising this even when you’re not feeling anxious.

Keep a mood journal.

Stay with me here. This is something I’ve made myself (although I’m sure I’m not the first person to have done it), and it’s basically for every day of the year I keep a journal on my mood. Have I been feeling really anxious? Really frustrated? Had an amazing day? Keep a note of it! I link colours to moods and have an entire table made up for the year. How does this help you control your anxiety? For me, it means I can look back and see that “okay, I might have had a bad day today, but look! My good days are outweighing the bad”. It also means, I get a little bit of downtime to reflect on how the day, week or month has been – who doesn’t love a little bit of colouring to calm them down and help them relax?

Throw them away.

Write down your anxious thoughts and feelings and then scribble them out, or just scribble aggressively on paper, scrunch into and ball and throw it in the bin. This sounds ridiculous but honestly, this is something I’ve tried and tested and once I’ve scribbled the hell out of my anxious thoughts and feelings and scrunched them up into a ball, I feel loads better. It’s kind of like scribbling them out of your mind and throwing them away physically. It makes me feel slightly empowered.

Alternatively, use rubbish or recycling to be more environmental friendly. I’m sure it’s equally as satisfying.

Purchase some self-help books or journals.

I’ve recently started looking into this option and haven’t regretted it since. I bought 2 little books that made an appearance in my ‘What’s in my bag’ post – The Little Book Of Confidence that is full of quotes to help transform fears into confidence, energy and love. I also picked up a journal called “In My Humble Opinion” which is a journal where I can vent all of my inner-truths. This also has quotes throughout – has anyone else spotted a theme of quotes here?! Both of these books help me feel a little less ‘crazy’ and a little more ‘I can do this!’, so I definitely recommend picking one up.

Speak to your anxiety.

This is a little bit similar to being mindful. Acknowledging when you feel anxious is great. That way, you recognise that this feeling of absolute terror is not you. You know anxiety can make you say, think, do or just act differently. Be open with yourself about it. Try repeating some of these lines to yourself when you next feel anxious:

“This is anxiety making me feel like this. I am okay, I can control this.”

“I am strong, I am safe and I am powerful.”

“I always come out the other side of anxiety, this time is no different.”

“Anxiety is my bodies coping method. It’s just trying to warn me of danger, but I’m okay this time.”

“I am still present in the moment. I can hear my breathing. I can see people around me. I’m fine.”

To anyone dealing with anxiety, you got this my friend! I hope you can find some help within these little tips and tricks of mine, even if it’s just a single sentence of it that inspires you. You always have a friend in me if your anxiety gets a little too much.

Love, Ashley

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70 thoughts on “Enough of the fight! Remain in control of your anxiety.

    • ashlexyz says:

      I’ve read so many of these sort f posts in my time and they’re definitely useful! Everyone has different things to share and express about their experiences! I love my little books, they definitely help to keep me calm x

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      • The Ethical Evolution says:

        Thank you! & it was exposure therapy and CBT that helped me, baby steps in situations I would normally freak out about but then I could see that it was fine and there is no reason to get that worked up about losing a friend in a supermarket because I would find them again etc. There are still some things that get to me like busy spaces and walking alone places but I am so much better now than I used to be x


  1. EmmaLanglands says:

    Such a good read, I love the idea of writing down your feelings!! I used to do it but stopped! I think that would help me a lot!!
    ‘I am strong., I am safe and I am powerful’ is something I use all the time!!! It just boost you up so much!!!
    Thanks you for sharing xox

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  2. beautyblitzblog says:

    I always set my phone lock screen to a life affirming quote that makes me feel positive and more in control. As I’m on my phone a lot it’s the first thing I see and I’m forced to (try) and feel more positive. The one I have at the moment is ‘Happiness can always be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light” from Harry Potter. Great post x BeautyBlitzBlog.com

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  3. Dalal Tahira says:

    All these tips seem super useful, particularly like the idea of writing down problems and physically throwing them away- it genuinely seems therapeutic and more hands-on.

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    • ashlexyz says:

      That’s one of my favourite methods! It genuinely feels like your throwing all of them anxious thoughts away and as much as the thoughts might still be there after, I find it’s helped me still! X


  4. wartsandallonline says:

    You made some amazing suggestions here that are really good ideas. The biggest help I’ve had with my anxiety is speaking with other people who have experience with it, it helps to combat the loneliness that can come with mental health issues.

    I’ve just written about alt therapies on my blog and honestly writing about my mental health felt so liberating.

    Really good read!

    Laura xo


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    • ashlexyz says:

      I would have to agree with you. If you know someone that has experiences it then talking it out with them is great. Unfortunately, most of the people I know haven’t experienced it and although they try to be helpful, it’s the “oh yeah I know what you mean” when really they have no clue!

      I’ll be sure to check out your blog post when I get a minute! X

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  5. Penny says:

    As a psychologist, I can see how you have identified some really useful strategies Personally, I think mood journals are so helpful. You can see what your mood/anxiety has been like as well identifying triggers.

    Enjoyed this!

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    • ashlexyz says:

      I love my mood journal! It definitely does help identify triggers as well as gives you a boost of positivity if needed. I really hope more people start keep track of their mood! X


    • ashlexyz says:

      It is! I don’t know what I’d do without mine now! I love looking back and seeing that although I feel like I’ve been anxious a lot – I can actually see that it was really bad on 1 day! X


    • ashlexyz says:

      It definitely does help in my experience. Even if you’re not wanting to throw it away after, someone else has just suggested talking to your diary and telling it that your thoughts and wrong and not in control. I feel like this could be a good method too! X


    • ashlexyz says:

      I do love mood diaries! I think they’re great regardless of if you struggle with anxiety or not – if you’re having a bad day just looking through and seeing you’ve had a good week/month etc is a great feeling! X

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  6. Sophie says:

    Such great ideas, I’m glad you’re finding these help you and hopefully they help somebody else too! I find a lot of self-care in general can really help too 🙂 xx



    • ashlexyz says:

      Thank you! I really hope someone that’s looking for a little bit of support so they can feel more in control can find it! I would agree, self care is really important. It’s nice to be nice to yourself! X


  7. sparklyalbatross says:

    These are really great ideas! I also recommend square breathing and eating chocolate (which sounds weird but there’s actually a lot of science to it). Just know we all love and support you even when you have your really bad anxious days!


  8. takemootoo says:

    I really like the mood journal part. I’ve never heard of that before but it sounds really great on keeping yourself on check. I love this post.


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