Moving in with your partner is incredibly exciting for most and the honeymoon period of living together will probably be the best time of your life. But this period doesn’t last forever and soon enough, you’ll start discovering things about your partner that annoy the eff out of you. It’s not going to be easy – but it will be worth it. Here’s some realities of living with your partner!
Your secret stash of chocolate will mysteriously disappear to this little person called “I didn’t eat it” whose best friend is “I don’t know where it is” or “it wasn’t me”
Bad’ habits that were originally cute will get on your nerves and no matter how many times you tell them to close the bathroom door when they poop or to not stack dirty dishes in the sink, it won’t stop. Probably ever.
Chore-bores! Personally, I love cleaning but I despise washing the pots. I know Josh hates washing pots too, but he’s easily bribed by “wash the pots and you can have some of my chocolate”. Find out what works for you and your partner – we normally use the “I did this so you do that” and it works for us, but not for everyone.
Money is scary. We split bills 50/50 (except when he wanted Sky Sports – he pays for that!). We also have magnetic whiteboards that stick to the fridge that tell us how much we need to pay and when, one for him and one for me. This has always worked for us!
Learn to bite your tongue. Little things they do will irritate you but sometimes it’s not worth making a fuss about. My usual go-to confrontation is just shouting “Josh!” and pointing until he’s sorted the problem.
Sex will become less spontaneous and more scheduled. Not purposely, but it will. Not like “right, it’s 9:15pm, lets do it!” but more like sex being incorporated into night time routine, and never during the day.
You will argue about thing’s that literally do not matter, like where to put the bread and potatoes. They’re minor arguments, move on quickly or forever resent the home for bread and potatoes!
You will gain weight. I don’t know what it is about living with a partner, but takeaways and quick trips to the shop for bags of junk food becomes the norm.
Show appreciation. I always struggle with showing how much I appreciate things, but it’s important to do. If they make you a cuppa, say thank you. Doing nice things and appreciating each other will the relationship fresh and the environment fuelled with positivity!
If you do fall out, solve is as quickly as you can. You’re living together, there isn’t really an option of not talking and not crossing paths. Holding grudges will make you uncomfortable in your own home, so it’s best for you relationship and your mental health to just forgive and forget.
So there we have it, a handful of of tips to help you successfully live with your partner without murdering each other! Be prepared to get annoyed with them, but at the end of the day you love them and all the little things they do are just their quirks. Remember you do things that will annoy them too, that’s just life! Learn to forgive and forget the smaller things and you’ll be happy as larry!
Please feel free to share your experiences or any tips you have!